How to make yourself happy?

Forwarded by my friend to me, and decided to share this out too.

How to Stay Happy Always :-)

1.
Throw out nonessential numbers.
This includes age, weight, and height.

Let the doctors worry about them.. That is why you pay them.

2.
Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)

3.
Keep learning:

Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever.
Never let the brain get idle.
'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!

4.
Enjoy the simple things.

5.
Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
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And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with him or her!

6.
The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourself.
LIVE while you are alive.

7
Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8.
Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9.
Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is

10.
Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

Accept the things that is correct and ignore the things that is incorrect. No matter you are, it has no difference if you have your day sad. Why don't make it a happy day if it really makes no difference?

Like this:

I am not entirely an optimist who believes that the best will happen - and I am not entirely a pessimist who believes the worst will happen. You can say I am a pessoptimist. I believe that the best will happen - but it won't be good enough.

Nobody has the power to make us miserable or happy, except ourselves.

A word from Lyn Karol:
Learn to laugh at your troubles and you will never run out of things to laugh at.

The School's Carnival Co-curriculum day (Karnival Kokum)

Ever wondered how is Carnival Kokum in our school? This is how it looks like, take around 3 hours and performances with a average arrangement (well it is like that). The pictures here - as I promised. Have a view on these and enjoy.

Backstage event.

The orchestra team, it seems that they also making the background music for the theater below.

If I am right, this the drama that is something related to Tuah and Jebat (theater)... But not completed as the full version is on the next day in Recital Hall.

The Music asli... But it seems to be more in choir.

The Senam Robik, second part.

Lotsa bows, undoubtedly that this is archery.

'Genuine' club of mechanics. This is the co-curricular for "Mekanik Asas".

The SEJATI. This is one of the 5 parts in SEJATI, and if I am right, the Kembara section.

The choirs. Divided into two parts - black and white.

Not so sure what is this, but I think it is related to Batik.

The Tarian Asli, I presume.

The first Windows computer from Acer, the HDD is only 5GB and the RAM is 16MB (try to compare with today's computer).

This is the PC show of one of the co-curricular activity. It seems that this is the first DOS computer from Acer, in 1990-th.

I think this is calligraphy...

Golf. They held a putting game after that. I did joined but I only get a put from 5 of them.

I think this is the seni khat?

The first show of the carnival, silat cekak (Just if I spelled it right).

Well. It seems that items are not in chronological order because I forget that which one is for which. Anyway here are photos and enjoy. I am also not sure that if I have fun at there since I need to wake up early at Sunday, it is painful for me.

27th October

Well. 27th of this month is surely a unique day. Why? Let me go into further details.

1. pGURU meeting
This is the first. And it seems that finally (yeah, finally!) they have decided about the executives (EXCO) for the association. No doubt, I am taking the EXCO of publishing and information. At the same time, this EXCO has changed the name into ICT for this year.

At the beginning, I thought this is not a hard job, but then, I think it is... pathetic. Heard that pguru got its own website and launched at previous semester. However, when I viewed to it, there are numerous codings and not even a thing inside! The website is also too long for them to type. Just wonder making a blog (but stupid procedures and rules about copyright or whatever...) will be easier, isn't it? Guess I will starting to have a hard time on this for the next semester.

2. Friend's birthday
Well, think about birthday, surely think about the trouble. So far I am only celebrating my friend's birthday. Wonder if I got the chance to celebrate mine? All 4 of my friends had celebrated their birthday and today I and my friends celebrated her birthday at her house. Sure thing to say, it is crowded at her house. At least we still have the good time and she is happy too.

3. Friend's issue
I don't know how to say about it, but just want to know is the competition on the scores are important? Frankly, my pointer is just 3.++ and I don't have the intention into any list or whatever we call it. The thing I need to do is just survive for the whole university life and maintain at least a 3 pointer for my better future. So please, friends, stop spreading words that I am self-centered or whatever (if not then I will not volunteer myself to do so much jobs and helping you all)... Like it or not, being honest and indirect sometimes are my personality. It can be my strength and my weakness sometimes, as I hate to do the appearance making.

4. Others
Yeah, I got plenty of photoes and I am arranging. It is about the SIE at my area as well as the carnival of co-curricular activity at my school. Give me some time as I am busy on my assignment and hopefully I can done it within this week.

The Community Thread Released.

Yo.

Going to inform that I have just set up a board that is similar to LMS, and now currently named as The TESLian Forum and Online Community.

Hopefully that this will be one of the places for us to go when we are surfing the internet.

The address of this discussion board is:

http://theumstesl.forumer.com (Click here to go to the forum index)

The Journey to the Sabah Inlands

The semester break I and my friends have a trip from Lawas to Tenom and also Keningau at Sabah. During the journey I have used my phone to take some pictures so that to let you see the towns of Sabah as most towns in Peninsula are cities (I reckon so).

Take the route from Sipitang to Tenom. A new road and trying to experience the route so as the journey. Takes time for me to post it out due to the photos. Takes around 2 hours from Lawas to Tenom.

Where and what specialty is in Tenom? Perhaps you should know about Fatt Choi Coffee and most black coffee in Sabah and Sarawak is from Tenom.

The town of Tenom, Sabah.

The halfway from Tenom to Keningau. Quite green-ish.




All of these are the city of Keningau, where located before Tenom. Both of these towns don't have airport as the altitude of these cities.

The 'Banjaran Crocker'. Heard that this location recently is a national park. During the road you might saw something like the lower image. This is called to be the emergency lane (in case the brake is not functioning), as the road is steeply.

Inland journey sometimes are fun, you know.

This is what we called... LIFE! #4

Okay... not a lot of words for today. Just some photos. It is boring sometimes when it comes out with no idea, as this few weeks a lot of my friends are celebrating their birthday...

Starts out with the blood donation in the campus. She is 'fortunate' because I found her in the blood donation.

A girl (my coursemate) that wants to donate blood but afraid to her own blood. D-oh.

Then with that, today we are renting car to go out and enjoy for the life. Celebrating a friend's birthday, I can say... So we went to Damai and also City Mall to prepare a surprise...

The pictures are mostly from San Francisco Coffee, City Mall.

He wants to take a photo but his photo was taken by me.

These are untitled (no idea...).

They say this is the family of godfather?

Praying... or eating?

One of the rare photo (I consider) as I don't like to take pictures. The guy with yellow shirt is me.

We always say a monkey with a tree, and now we got a human with a street lamp. :P

Outdoor games in a community area. Quite fun, somehow..

Sweep kick perform.

Reckon that my friend is lucky, after the first celebration with us and just at the same night, his girlfriend celebrates for him again in the cafe of our hostel.

The 'luxurious' version of birthday cake that his friends held that night.


The birthday boy and his girlfriend.

Quite a number of us were celebrating for his birthday.

Well... Final words... Happy birthday Garry (for your 21st).

We should try to enjoy our life. Complaint on our life is important too. Happy or not, we still need to face it. So why want to bother it? (Learned quite a lot recently, still need to thanks to the 'lecturer', but still my opinion will not change...)

Hopefully you like it. Takes a lot of time to do about this.

Gosh, the library...

Look at the photo, see how the mXdXc students in our school that one of our 'lecturer' that praises the most and compares us with them. This is the way to study...?

Do they deserve the praise...?

There's only a mother and father in the world (Chinese)

I get this from my friend's e-mail again, and I find out this is an interesting item for me to post it up. Whoever is the writer of this essay, please contact me so that I can put a credit from it.

Thanks to my friend - Y_Wei to forward me this essay. If it is possible, I will try to translate this to English...

父母永遠只有一個

---

媳婦說：

「煮淡一點妳就嫌沒有味道，現在煮鹹一點妳卻說咽不下，

妳究竟怎麼樣？」

母親一見兒子回來，二話不說便把飯菜往咀裡送。

她怒瞪他一眼。

他試了一口，馬上吐出來，

兒子說：「我不是說過了嗎，媽有病不能吃太鹹！」

「那好！媽是你的，以後由你來煮！」

媳婦怒氣沖沖地回房。

兒子無奈地輕嘆一聲，然後對母親說：

「媽，別吃了，我去煮個麵給妳。」

「仔，你是不是有話想跟媽說，是就說好了，別憋在心裡！

「媽，公司下個月升我職，我會很忙，至於老婆，她說很想出來工作，所以 ....」

母親馬上意識到兒子的意思：

「仔，不要送媽去老人院。」

聲音似乎在哀求。

兒子沉默片刻，他是在尋找更好的理由。

「媽，其實老人院並沒有甚麼不好，妳知道老婆一但工作，一定沒有時間好好服侍妳。老人院有吃有住有人服侍照顧，不是比在家裡好得多嗎？」

「可是，阿財叔他.....」

洗了澡，草草吃了一碗速食麵，兒子便到書房去。

他茫然地佇立於窗前，有些猶豫不決。

母親年輕便守寡，含辛茹苦將他撫養成人，供他出國讀書。

但她從不用年輕時的犧牲當作要脅他孝順的籌碼，

反而是妻子以婚姻要脅他！

真的要讓母親住老人院嗎？

仔問自己，他有些不忍。

「可以陪你下半世的人是你老婆，難道是你媽嗎？」

阿財叔的兒子總是這樣提醒他

「你媽都這麼老了，好命的話可以活多幾年，為何不趁這幾年好好孝順她呢？樹欲靜而風不息，子欲養而親不在啊！」

親戚總是這樣勸他。

兒子不敢再想下去，深怕自己真的會改變初衷。

夕晚，太陽收斂起灼熱的金光，躲在山後憩息。

一間建在郊外山崗的一座貴族老人院。

是的，錢用得越多，兒子才心安理得。

當兒子領著母親步入大廳時，

嶄新的電視機，42吋的螢幕正播放著一部喜劇，

但觀眾一點笑聲也沒有。

幾個衣著一樣，髮型一樣的老嫗歪歪斜斜地坐在發沙上，

神情呆滯而有一個老人在自言自語，

有個正緩緩彎下腰，想去撿掉在地上的一塊餅乾吃。

兒子知道母親喜歡光亮，

所以為她選了一間陽光充足的房間。

從窗口望出去，樹蔭下，一片芳草如茵。

幾名護士推著坐在輪椅的老者在夕陽下散步，

四周悄然寂靜得令人心酸。

縱是夕陽無限好，畢竟已到了黃昏，他心中低低嘆息。

「媽，我........我要走了！」

母親只能點頭。

他走時，母親頻頻揮手，

她張著沒有牙的嘴，

蒼白乾燥的咀唇在囁嚅著，一副欲語還休的樣子。

兒子這才注意到母親銀灰色的頭髮，

深陷的眼窩以及打著細紋臉。

母親，真的老了！

他霍然記起一則兒時舊事。

那年他才6歲，母親有事回鄉，不便攜他同行，

於是把他寄住在阿財叔家幾天。

母親臨走時，

他驚恐地抱著母親的腿傷心大聲號哭道：

「媽媽不要丟下我！媽媽不要走！」

最後母親沒有丟下他。

他連忙離開房間，順手把門關上，不敢回頭，

深恐那記憶像鬼魅似地追纏而來。

他回到家，

妻子與岳母正瘋狂的把母親房裡的一切扔個不亦樂乎。

身高3呎的獎杯──

那是他小學作文比賽「我的母親」第1名的勝利品！

華英字典──

那是母親整個月省吃省用所買給他的第一份生日禮物！

還有母親臨睡前要擦的風濕油，

沒有為她擦，帶去老人院又有甚麼意義呢？

「夠了，別再扔了！」

兒子怒吼道。

「這麼多垃圾，不把它扔掉，怎麼放得下我的東西。」

岳母沒好氣地說。

「就是嘛！你趕快把你媽那張爛床給抬出去，我明天要為我媽添張新的！」

一堆童年的照片展現在兒子眼前，

那是母親帶他到動物園和遊樂園拍的照片。

「它們是我媽的財產，一樣也不能丟！」

「你這算甚態度？對我媽這麼大聲，我要你向我媽道歉！」

「我娶妳就要愛妳的母親，為甚麼妳嫁給我就不能愛我的母親？」

雨後的黑夜分外冷寂，街道蕭瑟，行人車輛格外稀少。

一輛寶馬在路上飛馳，頻頻闖紅燈，陷黃格，

呼一聲又飛馳而過。

那輛轎車一路奔往山崗上的那間老人院，

停車直奔上樓，推開母親臥房的門。

他幽靈似地站著，母親正撫摸著風濕痛的雙腿低泣。

她見到兒子手中正拿著那瓶風濕油，

顯然感到安慰的說：

「媽忘了帶，幸好你拿來！」

他走到母親身邊，跪了下來。

「很晚了，媽自己擦可以了，你明天還要上班，回去吧！」

他囁嚅片刻，終於忍不住啜泣道：

「媽，對不起，請原諒我！我們回家去吧 ！」

～～後語～～

隨著自己愈長大，

看著父母親臉龐從年輕變憔悴，

頭髮從烏絲變白髮,動作從迅捷變緩慢，多心疼！

父母親總是將最好、最寶貴的留給我們，

像蠟燭不停的燃燒自己，照亮孩子！

而我呢？

有沒有騰出一個空間給我的父母，

或者只是在當我需要停泊岸時，

才會想起他們……

其實父母親要的真的不多，

只是一句隨意的問候：爸、媽，你們今天好嗎？」

隨意買的宵夜，煮一頓再普通不過的晚餐，

睡前幫他們蓋蓋被子，

天冷幫他們添衣服、戴手套……

都能讓他們高興溫馨很久。

有時，我常在想：我希望我的子女以後如何對我。

那現在，我有沒有如此對待我的父母？

我相信，人是環環相扣的；

現在，你如何對待你的父母；

以後，你的子女就如何待你。

朋友，人世間最難報的就是父母恩，

願我們都能：以反哺之心奉敬父母，以恩之心孝順父母！

～共勉之～

生命不要求我們成為最好的，只要求我們作最大的努力！

老人安養院牆上發現的一篇文章

孩子！當你還很小的時候，

我花了很多時間，教你慢慢用湯匙、用筷子吃東西。

教你繫鞋帶、扣扣子、溜滑梯、教你穿衣服、梳頭髮、擰鼻涕。

這些和你在一起的點點滴滴，是多麼的令我懷念不已。

所以，當我想不起來，接不上話時，

請給我一點時間，等我一下，

讓我再想一想……極可能最後連要說什麼，我也一併忘記。

孩子！

你忘記我們練習了好幾百回，

才學會的第一首娃娃歌嗎？

是否還記得每天總要我絞盡腦汁，

去回答不知道你從哪裡冒出來的嗎？

所以，當我重覆又重覆說著老掉牙的故事，

哼著我孩提時代的兒歌時，體諒我。

讓我繼續沉醉在這些回憶中吧！

切望你，也能陪著我閒話家常吧！

孩子，現在我常忘了扣扣子、繫鞋帶。

吃飯時，會弄髒衣服，梳頭髮時手還會不停的抖，

不要催促我，要對我多一點耐心和溫柔，

只要有你在一起，就會有很多的溫暖湧上心頭。

孩子！如今，我的腳站也站不穩，走也走不動。

所以，請你緊緊的握著我的手，陪著我，慢慢的。

就像當年一樣，我帶著你一步一步地走。

若為人子女也不懂得如何體諒他們，那他們便只能於痛苦中渡過餘生，黑暗中逝去....

請把此文章轉發給您的朋友，

讓他們知道家人才是最重要的。
愛情可以重新再找尋，但父母一生卻只有一個，
要珍惜、珍重。

Pesta Lawas (Con'td)

Wow, what a sensation. The day I came back and my hometown (consider as is) are having a 2-days festival, so-called Pesta Lawas. The climax of the festival is at Sunday and lucky me. I was able to have a visit with the splendid show.

Even though that night was only holding 2 activities, but it seems that both activities have taken a lot of time and attention of the folks (including me). It starts with the first activity which they
called as 'flower car' parade as well as the lanterns.

Before that, sorry about the photo quality - I don't have any good camera as I am using my Nokia 5700 as my primary camera and y'know... phone cam's are always having a poor performance while shot at night...

Photos:

One of the 'cars' after I arrived the arena.

Another one.

Bet this is from the school...

Obviously. This is from the palm or farming organization.

Two private contestants in the 'flower car' competition.

Government organization also involved in this event. Not so sure about others except JKR.

A 'flower car' from the private organization. I think most of the 'flower car' above are from the school...

Not only the cars, the lanterns are also in this show too. But I am late when I arrived to the arena, so I have visited the school where the lantern contestant's final location. There are some lanterns able to get the attention from the others though.

It seems that these lanterns are from the secondary school.


They said this is from the primary school. Looks very beautiful though.

Have no idea about this lantern, but it seems very beautiful inside (not so sure at outside)


A pile of lanterns from another primary school. Seems to be a lot of contestants.

It seems to be more items to be show for, but these are only photos I am able to get because I am late for the event as I got no information about that...

After that, I found the location of the second event based on the crowd. It is at the park of the town.

The speech by someone.. who?

Look at the crowd..

After all, this is the first time that I can see - the crowds and the scene of bustle and excitement in the town. I only knew that the event ended at 1.30am as I heard fireworks at that time.

Hopefully at the future this event will be continued and along with the improvements - I am extremely thrilled with that and... excited. Not often we can watch about these spectacular events in all the time too, even it is just a town's festival.

I enjoyed... and now you enjoy the pics.